We often get sick of doing the same thing over and over again, that feeling of insanity, and we want to break away to something new. But how do we do that when we are struggling to encourage ourselves to go for it?
While we can often say to ourselves, “This sounds like a good idea, I should do that,” this is usually followed by no action and never having the thought cross our minds a second time.
So in facing this struggle, what are some of the ways we can get around it and actually take the time to shape our mindsets to want this new experience?
Learn to love uncertainty
The best course of action is usually the obvious one.
Sometimes the obvious one is scary and sometimes it’s exciting. These feelings usually shape our course of actions. These feelings also deter us from doing what we are fearful of.
We like to think we know exactly what will happen and what the outcome of a certain course of actions will be.
The truth is that we won’t always have that advantage in our imagination.
Loving uncertainty is knowing when we encounter a new situation we aren’t sure of, we will take in everything around us, every thought, and see that a new situation is benefiting us in more ways than one.
We won’t get far if we only do what we already know and are familiar with.
It’s the things we don’t know and do regardless of whether we want to or not that will give us more to work with in the future. Experience is the goal which is contrary to thinking we are working for the positive outcome which isn’t always guaranteed.
Analyze your decisions from the future
While we can often tell ourselves something we have the option of doing seems like a good idea and might actually be worth pursuing, we tend to just allow ourselves to think of the best possible outcome of it.
After, maybe somewhere in our subconcious, we tell ourselves, “No, that probably won’t be the case so why do it?”
Unless we see 100% perfect outcome in a decision that is outside of our norm, we tend to not make the decision for fear of it changing our daily routines.
It’s the risk that we ignore, even if the outcome is positive, mostly positive or neutral. The possibility of neutral leaves us to feel like we don’t need to take that action and can stick to what we are already doing.
A better way to approach this and get over that feeling of not needing to take the action is to analyze the situation from the future.
While that may not sound possible, think of after the action or decision has been done, how you might be feeling then, and what you might say to yourself now that would encourage you to do it.
We can easily see passed positives and tell ourselves something we didn’t do won’t affect us that much, but we know when we have done something similar, even if we had that previous mindset, we feel so much better after.
An example of this would be going to the gym. Some days we might say, “Missing one day won’t matter.” And in truth, maybe it won’t, but maybe it will. If we do make the decision to go, we’ll feel so much better having done it and will think, “I didn’t want to, but I’m so much more glad I did.”
Understanding that we often block ourselves from doing something because we see it as not worth the effort and at the same time seeing the times we have done something we had felt neutral about, we always feel better after we did what we decided we should finally do.
Don’t think and just do
Some of us work well under pressure and I would say I am one of them.
I would also say I work well under pressure, but specifically what I already know how to do.
When it comes to something I don’t know how to do, pressure causes me to overthink, reanalyze what I’ve already analyzed and ultimately make a list of options and never actually pick one.
Overthinking will always be a problem I will have to face and many like me know that it is hard to get around.
The only way to entirely get around overthinking is to not give yourself time to overthink something.
It’s like standing atop a high above ground diving board and staring at the height until you decide you don’t want to jump.
While it sucks to know the truth, the truth is that it gets harder the more you stay in the same spot and think about it.
You may have that initial fear when you are first presented with the upcoming action you are about to take, it’s right as you feel that fear that it is best to go forward and do it.
If you try and “calm yourself down”, you’re really just waiting for the initial fear to pass (which may never happen) and afterward, you will not want to take the action because all you will have left is remembering how terrifying it first was to see it and will make the action harder than it has to be.
In a recent post of mine, I talked about a method for anxiety that I would try and see if it made things easier for me.
The method was to make a list of anxieties and start eliminating them off the list as I confronted each and every one of them, starting with the smallest and easiest anxiety.
While this may work for others, the truth for me was that as I worked my way up, I felt the fear from the higher listed anxieties every time I eliminated a small one.
The list, if anything, made me think about the upcoming higher anxieties more than I should have and in turn took away the “Don’t think and just do” possibility. I had been thinking about it and way more than I should have.
If you want to try this method, I’m curious as to how it affects other people and if some people do benefit from it. As for me, it made things worse, but I understood that and took a different route to beat the challenges I was facing.