What Do You Do When Your Barriers Are Too Big?


“Life is a series of punches. It presents a lot of challenges. It presents a lot of hardship, but the people that are able to take those punches and able to move forward are the ones that really do have a lot of success and have a lot of joy in their life and have a lot of stories to tell, too” (Josh Turner).

What do you do when you want to move forward, and have been trying to move forward, but can’t seem to make any visible progress?

What happens when the barrier and obstacle you push against and struggle to get over are actually too powerful to defeat?

While it may seem like there are multiple approaches to tackling obstacles and looking with different viewpoints, most will come with the intention that is a simple fix.

The truth is that when an obstacle is too great in size, looking away from the barrier or taking the focus off of it may make it easier to overcome.

Two ways I have that can help with this are what I have listed below; one is a viewpoint change and the other a technic to make damage to that barrier happen.


Look at yourself instead of the obstacle

Maybe the unbreakable barrier you are facing isn’t meant to be broken at the time.

Maybe it’s facing the barrier that is helping you to overcome others. It could be distracting you from the size of other barriers making those a lot easier to succeed in.

While damage to a barrier may not be apparent, that doesn’t mean you are at a loss in the process.

An obstacle you face that you can’t get over but have tried to get over may be preparing you to eventually take it down.

Maybe the barrier will never decrease in size, but slamming against the wall, even making no visible cracks or dents, has helped train you to eventually take it down.

Damage to a barrier doesn’t need to be the focus of the process to break it down. Yourself and your preparation to take it down may be what the obstacle is requiring.

It may not be the cracks you have to look for, but the strength you build trying to make cracks that matter. Learning karate, you can try and break a block of wood, but failing to do so doesn’t mean you can’t eventually do it.


Work on other obstacles to lessen the barrier’s size

I was exposed to a technic that I have yet to try, but will very soon come back with full results to my experience with it.

The technic was in regard to social anxiety. It mentioned that the best way to do whatever it is that you may want to do but can’t, whether it be asking someone out, requesting a pay raise from your boss or anything else in that matter, is to start small and work your way up to that.

There is no need to make a leap of faith when the stairs to the bottom and back to the top will get you there.

The specifics of the technic are to make a list of the easiest to hardest things you don’t want to do or want to do but can’t seem to get yourself to do. Once you have the list, start with the easiest and work your way up.

Take the easiest hard thing, and when you are done with it, the second thing should be easier than just jumping straight from the bottom to the second thing.

The end of the list is the goal and the list in itself is what is going to make the top possible.


Inevitably, come back to it


Although I mentioned this once before, it’s the unfortunate truth to some of our obstacles.

We may want to get over them as soon as possible, but maybe our struggle to get over them is just a waste.

I am not recommending ignoring your problems obviously, but if there is a problem you have been repeatedly trying to fix and it seems unfixable, come back to fix it later.

Maybe the materials you need will be provided in the future but at the time, you don’t have the tools and materials to get it done.

I have had obstacles that I have faced, attempted to get over, failed countless times and tried multiple routes to get them achieved, but have nonetheless been pushed back down every time.

It wasn’t that I was failing myself, it was that I had the right mindset and work ethic, but I lacked an ability to achieve it that was out of my control to obtain.

There is a fine line between facing our obstacles from different viewpoints and trying multiple ways to combat them, as opposed to saying they are unobtainable and leaving them to drown us.

It is finding that fine line and learning to see which side of the line our problems fall on. And if all else, assume they are all on the possible line until they are 100 percent proven to need more time and knowledge to become an achievement of the past.

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