How to Get Over the Imposter Syndrome

 

The Imposter Syndrome is defined as an individual doubting their accomplishments and holding the fear that one day, they will be caught out as a fraud.

I’ve felt the imposter syndrome before and on occasion still do, but I know this is a psychological effect and I know I don’t have to let it mean anything to me.

The Imposter Syndrome is simply proof that we believe we don’t know enough or haven’t done enough to be classified in the position we are put into.

A high-status job at a company may feel like a mistake on the companies part to you, but the realization that they chose you means they have the understanding that you are not a waste.

Is it true that they can get someone better? Maybe so but also maybe not. Don’t let that fear that someone out there may be better than you deter you away from doing what you were chosen to do.

 

To an extent, everyone suffers the syndrome


We may feel like we are the only ones to feel this way because everyone else seems to be put in their appropriate societal role. We may feel like our spot we were put into is a mistake.

The cure to this is understanding it is not a mistake and our doubts are the pressure we build on ourselves to do a good job, yet it may not always reflect the confidence that we won’t at least try our best.

Everyone is acting and as Shakespeare said it, “All the world’s a stage”. To not realize a role in society is quite literally that, a role. 

We play certain parts and the parts given to us is because we are seen as the best fit, best actor for that part from the outside. So even if we don’t feel we can do it, others believe that we can and that is enough in itself to see the flaw in the effect.

We don’t always have to trick ourselves into believing our part, we just might know the behind the scenes and not have the ability to fall for the magic trick.

To us, our failures are more visible than our accomplishments. Sure we might have accomplishments we are really proud of, but our failures, although they may be a growing point in our life, stick with us as something we didn’t do correctly. The truth in that may be that what we did wrong would have been the same outcome for anyone else playing the part.

The only time we see someone make a nearly impossible success happen when failure is more than assured is in movies with superheroes or celebrities. Although something to give thought to, the characters struggle in those movies is their imposter syndrome.

A hero doubting their ability to save the world is them doubting themselves while we, the audience, believe they can do it. And in the end, even if it is beyond unrealistic, it’s believable that someone who was able to succeed had the doubts prior to doing so.

 

Real life examples back up the truth


Somewhere along the lines, we have accomplished something by ourselves with no help and did so through pure confidence that we were able to do it.

The thought of doubt never crossed our minds or if it did, was brief enough to not distract us from trying.

If you’re a writer and you have a popular story, that reinforces your belief that what you have to say matters to people. You no longer have to say to yourself you aren’t the right person. You proved to yourself that you are.

Being put in a position because of a success doesn’t always come about from some fluke. Those few accomplishments were enough for an outsider to see the value in doing those things.

Our doubts may be attributed to our want to grow. And our want to grow is proof to ourselves that we know we have more to learn.

 

You are an expert in something


Everyone is an expert in something.

I have seen the question before, “If you have to give an hour-long talk about a subject, what would you talk about?”

While you may not immediately know the answer, we are humans who were born to think. There will always be something we can continually provide information for.

Whether you think this to be true or not, realize that if you are passionate about something, anything, and even if you don’t think you are any good at it, you have the knowledge to teach.

Experts learn what they don’t know. They are still experts in that field as they learn.

A researcher may not have a clear-cut idea on what they believe will happen in a certain test, but they do it anyway to take the learning experience and utilize it to show they took the time to learn something they didn’t know.

An imposter or not, everyone has value and the problem is not being able to see the value in yourself.

Simply knowing that you have the ability to see the obstacles that may cause you to have struggles reaching a goal shows you have an idea of what will take what effort to do something.

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