“Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything” (George Gernard Shaw).
The current stance I am at in my life is causing me to feel baffled on what I should do next. I’ve started to understand that what it is I believe I should be doing can help me realize what I can do next.
We get into these situations of confusion and we want to move forward with a goal in mind, yet the goal can be set with the path unclear. Or alternatively, the goal itself unclear.
We try to analyze how to get to our goals, but once we start toward them, we either lose track of which direction we are going or we start to question if the goal is appropriate for our passion.
When we realize and identify a standstill in our perception of a goal, the challenge isn’t always clear.
In our own guidance, we have to analyze and choose what it is that we want to go for and how to truly stick with it.
I’ve always felt slightly slow to switch when it comes to my current goals as some of them I either achieve or start to understand they may not be accomplishable by current me.
Although we may only have visual lists of our goals in mind, even with the memory of these goals imprimted in our actions, goals can be questioned pretty easily.
For example, I love to write. How much I love to write varies. I have days when I don’t want to do it at all and days when I look forward to it.
However, a goal of becoming a writer for me has changed as I have started to understand the types of writing I can perform and enjoy creating. I don’t see myself as limiting what I can and can’t do but what I would want to pursue versus what I believed would be fun to be good at.
This is an example of path questioning and happens to everyone fairly often.
I’ve come up with a way to view a goal at the end of a path like a highway.
The same road goes in the same direction with the same destination. But there are lanes to this road. Some with less bumps for cars that can’t always handle the big potholes in the road. Some with better views off the side of the highway at the landscapes.
Our choice of lane doesn’t have to effect our choice of destination.
We think we know the destination we want, but in the back of our minds we understand that as we move forward our destination may stay the same while the path to get there fills up with detours and pitstops.
Standstills in our goal setting can happen and learning to adjust with new lanes is the only true way to continue on the road.
Analyzing the lane change
Although we may be perfectly fine changing lanes, we don’t always know how to go about doing so.
Some of our changes we want can be seen as too big or too large yet when we take these changes prematurely, we can feel overwhelmed before we even have the chance to decide on switching back. Or in the worst case, abandoning the road altogether.
Before we take an action of changing lanes, we have to take the time to analyze.
- Will this change my desired destination?
- Will this change my time of arrival?
- To move forward do I need to leave something behind?
Some paths may be easier to switch to while some may require the current path to be depicted as a stepping stone we have to take our foot off of.
We can be all for change, but we don’t want to ruin the transition of change by making it without taking the time to really really look into our passion and long term goals.
Being true to the direction
Once a new direction is chosen, we will want to remain consistent with our choice.
To do that, we need to be true to our choice and be sure of it’s effect on our lives.
Goals are hard to come up with because there is a lot to take into account. What we want to do in the end may be different from what we want to work toward. What we think we can do well may be very different from what we enjoy doing.
The process of analyzing our choice takes time but when it is made, it has to be just.
We want our goals to be accurate to what we can see ourselves doing with not just the accomplishment in mind, but the path as well as the lane changes along the way.
We have to be honest with ourselves, genuine with our abilities and authentic with what we believe we can consistently look foward to doing.
While we may not always be in a standstill, our goals can still be questioned and the changes we believe to be necessary to what we do aren’t to be taken lightly.
Analyze what you want to change and what can be changed. Take the time to find a replacement goal or adjust your goal list to fit your capability. Lastly, be true to the decision and really sit with it and see how well you believe you can make something out of your choice.