“Remain calm, serene, always in command of yourself. You will then find out how easy it is to get along” (Paramahansa Yogananda).
Self-awareness is one thing and self-improvement is another. We understand how our perception of ourselves might sometimes be skewed and other times fairly accurate.
We try and improve how we see things and how we perceive information to better ourselves and our surroundings.
But what does it mean to mindful?
Is it simply being aware of the changes taking place in yourself or is it much more?
I like to think of being mindful as taking in all of the self-promoting/improving categories while also having some of its own attributes that are not mentioned by the others.
Being mindful is being calm
To be mindful of ourselves we must also be aware that changes take place within or without our control, but regardless we let them happen. That is the only way for them to happen.
When we notice something changing, whether ourselves or our environment, being mindful is understanding that you are moving through this change.
It’s not fighting it or accepting it with too much excitement before the change is even done, it’s letting it happen viewed through a stoicism manner.
We might try and force change even if we know it is for the better. But it is what that does to our mind that takes away mindfulness.
Things take time and a certain process that will almost always show us the change before it has occurred. We get time to process these changes before anything has really shifted.
Being mindful is being an observer to not just everyone else’s life but your own.
Being mindful is loosely gripping your thoughts
Sometimes things don’t always go as planned. Sometimes they may even turn out worse than expected.
Being mindful in this situation is being ok with being mad or angry. It’s understanding the thought process but cutting it off before you feel the urge to do anything.
Something sad can reduce us to tears and something happy can make us feel like we can conquer the world. The difference is being able to view both events in the neutral light that you hold when not in these situations.
You don’t have to force control of your thoughts or even suppress them. Let them happen and let your emotions run their course.
Take a grip on your mind and loosen it to a comfortable position but strong enough that you can still see through your emotions and know what the best course of action is from now on.
Another way of viewing this is when you might let your emotions take control of a situation that may even be pleasant, you can see where the danger would have been had the situation been a bad one.
Impulse decisions sometimes turn out for the best such as accepting a job offer you didn’t anticipate. An unrealistic scenario but one that I feel we would all take without any additional detail nonetheless.
Yet in this light, is taking an emotionally controlled action necessary and fine to do? After thinking it over, the answer would have probably been yes anyway right?
But deep down, we know when impulse decisions we make are for the better or for the worse.
It’s our excitement that makes us want to bet on the positive selection and we can quickly talk ourselves into doing something, even if it’s done subconsciously.
Being mindful is imagining if a decision wasn’t already an impulse decision and we had previous time to think about it, we know our selection then and also now. Don’t let the weight of the moment control what you choose.
Being mindful is hard
In truth, being mindful is hard.
We are only human and our brains are wired the way they are because that’s just how it has always been.
We do what we think is right, we don’t do what we think is wrong. And for the most part, this works.
But to talk about being mindful is to talk about understanding why we feel certain ways and have put ourselves in certain environments.
Everything can be analyzed such as how we got to where we are in our lives, what we might want to do next and what drove us to think down that path.
The difference is being mindful is being aware that we don’t know everything. We don’t always make the best decisions even if with good intentions.
Just by thinking we are on a path to something doesn’t necessarily mean we don’t avoid it every once in a while in pursuit of something less important.
Being mindful is getting rid of the tinnitus without our comforting thoughts to hear the silence and accept whatever we are in and determine why what we want is worth pursuing and how it may not turn out the way we want.