How to Stop Sabotaging Yourself

“If you don’t believe in yourself, somewhere or another, you sabotage yourself” (Jason Day).

Although we are the ones to make our own progress and be proud of what we have accomplished, we still often are the ones that are the biggest barriers of our own success.

It’s not uncommon to feel demotivated to do something. But what becomes more of a problem is when motivation is only a fraction of what is needed and everything else falls apart around us.

We may see a little opportunity to take a break or let what we’ve made automate itself, but in doing so we let it go on for too long and end up sabotaging what we have worked so hard on preparing.

However, there are a few ways to view this problem and a few solutions as to how we can get rid of the barrier that is inconveniently ourselves.


Do What You Don’t Want to Do

Unfortunately, the only real way to get through laziness, demotivation, and overall avoidance of our tasks is to just do it.

There can be other ways to make it easier or much more satisfying to do, such as doing the hardest item on your to-do list first making every task subsequently easier.

Yet the purpose of making this the #1 priority to stop sabotage is because that comes from us not doing what we are supposed to be doing, and we know that.

By not doing what we want to do, we are allowing everything that we’ve done, everything that we’ve worked for deteriorate and we start moving backward in progress.

These tasks, the ones you don’t like and don’t want to do. These are the roadblocks. This is the test and the only way to pass it is to do it.

You can’t make progress until you realize that doing nothing itself is the sabotage.


Learn to Accept No Control

We can’t do everything perfectly. We can’t schedule perfectly. Overall we can’t do most of what we do perfectly.

This can possibly be one of the things keeping you from doing what you should be doing.

It’s the fear. The fear of it not coming out perfectly. Or the fear that what you will attempt will eventually be out of your control.

But the best way around this is to understand that no control is necessary to learn how to process what is happening.

The best way to learn is expose yourself and let everything absorb itself into you.

If you know and expect everything coming, you won’t be able to expand, learn or improve.

Letting go of control means you are expanding what you are capable of controlling later on.

This is a roadblock so it likewise falls under do what you don’t want to do so it should be taken as a task to complete no matter how much you feel you want to avoid it.


If You Don’t Know, Figure it Out

As with not knowing how to do something, you don’t sit around until you eventually have it figured out. You have to learn how to do it.

You have to expand your knowledge and figure out what it is that you need to do to learn this new process or idea that needs to be incorporated in your work.

Not knowing how to do something isn’t an excuse for not figuring it out.

If you don’t know something, accept that you don’t know it and there will always be multiple ways to learn.

Such as…

  • Research – thoroughly look up how to do something
  • Learn from master’s – understand and learn how others have gone through challenges
  • Get help – don’t be afraid to ask for others opinions and support
  • Think through it – a barrier may simply be a misinterpretation of what is to come and is easier once you know it

It’s not always easy to learn something when you aren’t exactly sure how to go about figuring it out. Still, that’s no excuse for not looking for the answer.

There is always an answer out there somewhere if someone else has done it before.

We live in the age of information. Almost all the knowledge in the world is available at our fingertips. Don’t forget to utilize it.


Force Positivity

We tend to be negative. It’s just the way humans are. We strive for stimulation and excitement but have to work most of our lives. We may not like it and won’t accept it, but the best way to get through it is to think and be positive.

You can force positivity in your mind by utilizing writing.

It’s simply asking the question, “What’s the worst that can happen?”

Write down the obstacle you are facing whether it be laziness, fear or even more specific than that.

Next write how you are going to get over it. Even if you don’t believe you are going to get over it. If you were to attempt, what would you do?

Write the worst outcomes and the best outcomes.

The point of this exercise is it shows our problems are not as big as we think they are and we don’t see it until it is on paper.

Positivity can be forced because we are accustomed to being dramatic for a lot of what we get ourselves into. Learn to force yourself not to think that way. Don’t be negative just because it’s easier.


Being our own to sabotage what we do is more than just frustrating. It’s easy to blame something or someone, but when it’s you deteriorating the progress it gets to be hard.

The only solution is to learn to force yourself to do things that need to be done even if just for your benefit of being able to go back to work.

There’s always a few solutions to every one problem. Don’t pretend it is the opposite.

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